If our mood effects everything: how we see things, how we deal emotionally with issues thrust our way, how our children, coworkers, or whoever feel around us, then isn’t our mood kind of important? I know….I can hear Joyce Meyer now, “Do not go by what you FEEL. Your FEELINGS can deceive you.” As some of you know, I am reading her book, Living Beyond Your Feelings.
Well, that’s all the more reason to get our m o o d under control. To keep our attitudes in check. We need to pray and ask the Lord to help us not be controlled by our feelings. They are unstable. We can go to bed fine and wake up grumpy, sometimes it seems for no reason at all. Other times we may have just got back from a great time in God’s presence at church and no sooner we climb out of the car, and our kids are bickering and we give in to the fleshy feeling of being mad and sometimes even end up going off.
STOP! Yes. Stop right there.
THIS is where I am learning some serious and painful lessons in growing as a believer.
And I will use the latter as an example in my own life…
This has recently happened to me, as I’m sure it happens to many of us moms. I go to church to get refueled, I am in the Spirit and WHAM. I get in the car and my kids are already at each other’s throats. I ask myself, “Didn’t you hear anything the pastor said?” I mentally murmur this like my elementary aged children should have it all together (though I myself have so far to go).
What our kids have heard are seeds that have been planted into them. (There are good seeds & bad seeds but more on that another day) We may not see those fruits right away but keep praying daily over them and they will eventually bear fruit. Don’t believe me? The Word says so.
Isaiah 55:11 Amplified Bible (AMP)
“So shall My word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return to Me void [without producing any effect, useless], but it shall accomplish that which I please and purpose, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.”
I have to trust God. Have faith. And I must remember faith is an action word. I choose to have faith, no matter what people may say to me. God’s Word wins.
So, back to my kids who are screaming at each other and seem as though they’ve never stepped foot in a Jesus loving, Bible-believing church. Those seeds that were planted into their ears do not all sprout at once, but little shoots pop up here and there. They are beautiful! BUT I must be paying attention or I may miss them. The more alert I am, or mindful as the pastor’s wife says a lot, in my kids spiritual development, the more thankful I will be as each baby step happens. I have to keep watering my children, no matter how I feel. No matter if I actually SEE the results yet or not.
When I find myself in this so common predicament and wish we could hop out and run for dear life, I must realize that I have a choice before me. I can let the flesh man rule, or I can tell him to shut up and listen to the Holy Spirit. This is that part where I pull up my boot straps, spiritually speaking, and mentally see the scriptures on the white board of my brain causing me to, “..take captive every thought and MAKE it obedient to CHRIST.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)
According to scripture, those of us who have been born again, DO have authority over what we think about, dwell on, and eventually decide to do or not do. That doesn’t mean we will never have a bad thought enter our mind. What this is saying is that when that happens, that annoying moment a sinful, rude, ugly thing tries to tell us it’s going to camp out in our head….we have the power & authority in Christ Jesus to tell it to get OUT. This does work. I have proof. I have to do it daily. It is all part of being a true follower of Christ in a fallen world. This is our training ground. He is training us to see things more the way He sees them. This only comes by trusting Him. Trust comes from knowing Him. How do you get to know Him? How do you get to know anyone else in a relationship? Spend time. Quality time. One thing mama Joyce always said that has stuck with me, is quality over quantity. Chew on that for a bit. Maybe that blog will come later. I have already rabbit trailed too much, let’s wrap this up.
Solution to the Problem
(repeat solution everyday until Jesus comes back to get us)
- Realize you have control of your mood/attitude – not because of how good YOU are – haha NO – because of Jesus Christ who lives IN you my friend.
- Decide to create an atmosphere where you can grow in the Lord.
- Remain thankful & trust Him in all circumstances, do not give in to condemning feelings or feelings such as guilt, anger, rage, malice, etc (I use www.biblegateway.com to study).
Our current mood, more often than not, sets the mood for the entire day. God says that being cheerful is literally like medicine. I also have heard that it is scientifically proven that when we laugh, there are certain chemicals that go off in our bodies that are GOOD for us. This is the same for the opposite, when we are stressed or have a raging fit, chemicals are released; obviously not the good kind.
Proverbs 17:22 Living Bible (TLB)
“A cheerful heart does good like medicine, but a broken spirit makes one sick.”
Us moms need to band together and lift each other up. Enough of this guilt trick that is so-not-new, yet we fall for it too often. We need to rejoice that we are breathing in a new day, and laugh with our kids a lot more than we probably let ourselves.
Genesis 21:5-6 The Message (MSG)
“Abraham was a hundred years old when his son Isaac was born.
Sarah said, ‘God has blessed me with laughter and all who get the news will laugh with me!'”
Psalm 126:2 Living Bible (TLB)
“How we laughed and sang for joy. And the other nations said, “What amazing things the Lord has done for them.'”
Laugher is a gift. A blessing. Not every time is a time for laughter, I get that. There is a season for everything, Ecclesiastes 3:1. I get that we all slip up too. The main thing is that we do like David, no matter how bad the sin, if we repent and keep the coarse, by faith we will win this race…the slow and steady way, always making time to stay spiritually fit.
Read further as I expound upon my own heart for hurting people, everywhere in the world. (Maybe this is where I used to let Satan twist the gift God gave me, into a feeling of hopelessness and guilt….the very gift of compassion and longing to DO something. Once again this is for another blog post. Maybe I can title that one, The World’s Problems are Big, But God is Bigger.)
I realize not everyone is in the same boat, that some are in hostile environments and can not just take a hot bubble bath while praying to get their focus back on what really matters. I realize there are true followers of Christ who live in an atmosphere that daily challenges their steadfastness. I am an avid Voice of Martyr’s reader and prayer warrior and we also support a Compassion International child. I understand each person has to look at where they are and what they’ve been given and choose to glorify God in whatever way or means that is. Having said all this, as a woman who was born free in America, has been married 11 years and has 3 kids, I had to decide to stop feeling guilty for where God put me. I used to feel guilty about E V E R Y T H I N G and it is NO way to live. God is sovereign. He placed us where He placed us. We should glorify Him with the opportunities He has put right in front of us. I have dreams, visions and goals and who knows…maybe one day I can go serve on a foreign land telling others about the love of Jesus. For now, I live in this town, in this duplex, surrounded by just-as-lost people. They need love too. Today, right now, this is my calling.
~more to come on learning to walk in the Spirit rather than the flesh, and overcoming the battle of being a carnal Christian….because this is a learning process for me 🙂