The Difference Between Conviction and Condemnation

“I can’t believe he said that,” I thought to myself.

A poor choice of words had seeped from my husband’s mouth. The hurtful kind.

Instead of praying about it right away, I let my mind dwell on the sentence.

And dwell. And dwell.

I was concerned for the other person’s feelings mainly, because I knew Matt had not meant for it to come out the way it did.

But instead of standing up for him, I dropped my head in embarrassment and kept quiet.

Then the tension in  me grew as time went on, and I couldn’t hardly enjoy myself where we were.

My mind swirled with captions of what others were possibly thinking that very moment. Then I began to get angry inside.

“Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart].” – Philippians 4:8 AMP

Isn’t it funny how we sometimes react to things we are making up in our heads?

Or maybe it’s just me…

When we got in the van, I could no longer hold it in. Trying to disguise my agitation, I calmly but firmly exclaimed, “Do you not realize what you said?!”

Teeth grit and all.


Whose Side Am I On?

When a mistake is made, we can either side with God or partner with Satan.

God is not going to throw punches, He wants us to realize our wrongdoing and come to Him as He offers mercy and forgiveness.

He is not going to skirt around a matter and be sneaky either – but He lovingly convicts us and patiently waits for us to respond.

I was not patient.

I realize us spouses need to confront at times – I am simply sharing this experience because if not careful, we can subconsciously try to be our spouses Holy Spirit, and actually end up getting in the way of the work God is trying to do in them.

I tend to want to rush God when it comes to Him dealing with my spouse, but how would I feel if the coin were flipped?

So the next time something is said or done that ruffles my feathers, I am praying God will help me control my tongue and give me peace.

When I learn to stop dwelling on what others think and start fixing my mind of Christ, I believe I won’t be so vulnerable to attack.


I am sharing a very Biblically solid blog post link where I took some time to read the other day because I have had issues with receiving and giving condemnation.

I had been doing so much better, but find when I slip – it’s like a downward spiral.

My heart wants to do good, but like any other habit that needs to be broke, so it is too with the worry which leads to thoughts which can lead to action – in this case, more hurtful words.

I knew how I was acting and feeling was not lining up with God’s ways, because I was feeling guilty, depleted and downright yucky.

I wasn’t fixing my mind on good things. Duh, Meghan!

Read about Conviction VS Condemnation here at

This is a post from the “Overcoming Obstacles” Series.






5 thoughts on “The Difference Between Conviction and Condemnation

  1. Wow Meg— I loved that article you linked to! (Had a little condemnation/conviction battle of my own this morning…. car troubles do not make for good times in my marriage…) My only wish is that I’d read your sweet words and theirs sooner—-> Because I can clearly see the condemnation I was under this morning with my “feelings” on the whole situation were clearly hindering my mission to remain close to God through reading his word and taking in what his servants (i.e. YOU!♥) had to say in pointing me back to Him. Thanks so much girl o♥♥♥x

    1. Car stuff, praying girl – and praying that Peace keeps you calm and trusting in Him. Our flesh is fleshy but I keep thinking of that verse, Though our hearts condemn us, God is bigger! I really should memorize where that is lol!! God bless you today, Heather dear!

      1. Thanks Meg! Yes car repairs require extra special prayer in my book, I appreciate any and all petitions! ♥ LOL! And our flesh is indeed soo fleshy… I like that. Trying to get my inner voice quiet so I can hear His better. Thanks for the push today! ♥

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